And I'm personally a little tired of looking at - as fewer and fewer blogs are about words these days - another: curated, edited, styled, life of glossy men and mostly women, homes and children who are offering their own hyper real lives for clods like me to lap up and feel like a total failure in comparison to. Because this is what my living room looks like at any given day.
I call bullshit. Sure there are those insane people who wake up at 5:00 AM to clean their house before they go to work. There are those fortunate people who have a cleaning person come in once a week, once a month, whatever, to help them. There are those who have a housekeeper and/ or nannies or a parent who lives with them full time or even a full staff of people who look after the cleaning of their house and the round the clock care of their children. But for the large majority of people who don't, who both parents work and the kids go to day care or one stays home but is constantly cleaning, feeding, caring for his or her children and doesn't have time to clean the crumbs off the toaster and shine all the chrome in his or her kitchen, call this what it is, bullshit.
I know it's escapist, I know, sometimes it's nice to look at a house in order and children in perfectly styled outfits and mothers with glossy hair and just the right clothes without baby throw up on them, this is what magazines have fed us for years, I know. But we accepted that it was staged in a magazine and we went on with our lives, now the Internet is trying to convince us that blogger x or celebrity y lives the way they portray their lives on their website. And like the woman with the fantastic figure who goes to the gym three times a week and watches what she eats but feigns that she's just naturally skinny, pretending that she isn't disciplined about her diet or works hard to keep her shape it's just bullshit.
Why do we all have to pretend that everything comes naturally to us or not admit when we have help? It's not a failure. In fact I'm always really impressed when someone discusses their workout regiment because it takes discipline. Or if having a clean house is that important to you and you wake up at 5:00 AM to clean, more power to you. But if you have someone who comes to clean your house, their is no shame in that either but let's be open about the help that we have. Because life is not a perfect picture of a manicured nails and Scandinavian mid century furniture in empty houses with an orderly scattering of home made toys and tidy children in Bon Point outfits and I wish that the Internet would stop telling me it is.